Archive for April, 2010



06
Apr
10

THE DARK FRATERNITY.

It use to be back around ten or maybe even fifteen years ago that when one was in a conversation with someone and during that conversation when it was discovered that the other party was unemployed. There would be a quiet response from the other person.

Quiet as in they would tell you “I am sorry to hear that you lost your job.” But in the back of their mind they are thinking to themselves. “How can you allow yourself to become a lower member of society, and just live of the system and do nothing?”

Back then it was somewhat frowned upon not to be working. It was as if your social status was downgraded and you had gone from working and or middle class to poverty once it was found out that you were unemployed.

And it did not matter as well what your personal education was. You could have been someone who started working right after high school. Or stated after you got your degree from college but once it was found out or discovered that you was unemployed, you were looked down upon.

It was as if people looked at you and thought you were lazy and did not want to do anything with your life. Being unemployed back then was the one club that a person should not be a part of. It was as if people thought you joined a violent gang and become a thug or hoodlum.

And even the people who you knew for a period of time would start to treat you differently. Like as if you had just gotten out of jail after being there for a few years and they just did not know how to deal or treat you, there was a quiet stigma about being unemployed.

But now over the last two years or so it seems now that being unemployed had become somewhat socially acceptable. We have gone from not knowing any of our friends or family members to be unemployed to knowing one or maybe even a few people who are out of work.  As if there was a population explosion of people who have migrated into the United States.

But the population explosion that has developed is not one of people who have migrated here; it’s of individuals that currently live here. Whether they were born in the United States or abroad and they are currently living here. Once you became unemployed you was just part of a massive group of people in employment limbo.

Nowadays if two people have the same conversation mentioned above. And the other person discovers that you are unemployed there is a sense of sympathy from the other person. You are comforted with words of support and maybe even an offer of help if need be. What was once shunned is now more acceptable, for it can happen to anyone.

Being on unemployment a few years back was one club you can say that was like being a member of a “dark fraternity.” A secret club or organization that very few people were a member of and would try to avoid to become a member of such a club. But now it seems that its members are growing and the dark secret fraternity is now coming into the light and the masses. A club that once people did not want to be a part of is now to an extent one that everyone is getting into.

Membership that one tries to avoid, but for one reason or another still becomes a member once they lose their job. This “dark fraternity” is no longer dark and secret. It has become a major club that people are becoming a member of. Granted unlike some fraternities or sororities that once you join you can be a lifetime member and support the organization.

The fraternity of unemployment has one simple rule when you join. And that rule is this… You can leave at anytime once you find employment, and leaving the fraternity of unemployment is highly encouraged.

03
Apr
10

A NEW MONTH AND A NEW ADVENTURE.

We now start a new month, the month of April. And as of this past Friday I have filed my last request for unemployment. It’s not because I have found work. It’s because my benefits have reached an end. Now I know you are thinking “I thought that unemployment last for about a year?” And to answer that question the answer is “yes.”

However… in my case when I filed for unemployment six months ago. I had missed the date of getting an extra six months. I missed it not because of anything I did such as file late. For I did file my claim immediately, I had missed the extension because I did not meet the time-table that the government had issued for the extension. The extension was up until August of last year, and by the time I got terminated from my last job it was September, there for missing the time-table.

But at least I planned what needed to be done within those six months. For I have saved when I was working and have paid off some bills months in advance so that I did not have to worry about them. And of course I did get a nice tax return back as well. At least part of it, even though I got my federal return, I am still waiting for my state return.

Granted I am fine with waiting for my state return since I am getting the money later would help me down the line in the weeks and months ahead. And since New York State is under financial problems at this moment, it may take about a few weeks to get it any way.

The new adventure for me now is the fact that I use to get my money weekly via unemployment. But now I am getting all my money (tax returns) in one lump sum, and have to make that sum of money stretch for an indefinite amount of time. Mind you I am totally fine with this since I knew that this moment would come and I have taken time to plan this.

Now of course barring any unexpected situations such as getting sick or family emergency that might come up, I shouldn’t have any major expenses that I would not have to put out. There for making what little money I have last a little longer.

Of course the question now is “How long can I make it last?”  I might be able to go about a month and a half, maybe two if lucky. For the adventure now is going to see if all the months planning for this moment actually work, I am sure that it will and I should do fine.

I have found that careful planning does make this moment in time a lot easier to deal with and with a little luck and skill I hope to find some sort of employment. I will just have to see how the employment situation is within the new few weeks and take it from there. If by the chance of a small miracle that the government does grant another extension of unemployment benefits then that will give me more time of course to continue living my life while looking for work.

But at this moment and like I have done in the past, I can’t just sit on my rear end and not look for work. Come to think of it in a way, my new full-time job has been to look for new employment. And in all honesty I rarely had a moment when I did not look. People say that you get lazy when you are collecting unemployment and not looking for work. Sorry to say that I am not one of those people.

I have been fully active and engaged about the search and hunt for full-time work myself, for I am not one to just sit around and not do anything about it. After all… Like I have said, “It’s a new adventure.” And adventures bring a sense of awe and wonder. Now I know that you are thinking right about now. “Where is the joy in looking for work?”

It’s what you might discover, for you never know what is out there down the line in employment. It can be a job in the same field that you once worked in, or something completely different. Discovery brings enlightenment to options that one might never consider and if one keeps their mind open to what is out there, the possibilities are endless.

Is it frustrating? Of course it is. But the final outcome of finding work and to be able to fully continue with one’s life outweighs the hardship. Whatever the final situation is it’s one that will be new and maybe exciting as all adventures are.




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